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Kwartin
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Subject: So, I'm like freaking out Mon Sep 14, 2009 9:30 pm |
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I don't care what she told me, I need help from people who are more mature than me. Which the majority of you all are. My ex and I started talking again today and essentially she told me she might be pregnant. We never had sex. All that happened was we messed around. She talked to the nurse, she said it was about 90% that she wasn't. Sure, 10% is nice in some circumstances, but right now, 10% is to much of a risk I'd like to take. We're hoping her period is just irregular or she's just late. I just. I don't know what to do. What to think. I can't get out of the house to have a smoke. I took a shot and it calmed me down a little, but it's starting to wear off and I'm starting to freak out again. I don't even know what I'm asking from you guys really. I just... Ugh [Edit]Oh, I don't know where this would actually go, so I'm just shoving it in general
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ThePitGoddess
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Mon Sep 14, 2009 9:36 pm |
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If you never had sex, you'd have to jizz on your hand and shove it in her, or she'd have to sit bare ass in a puddle of jizz.
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ThePitGoddess
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Mon Sep 14, 2009 9:38 pm |
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And, is that that Erika girl? When's the last time you guys fooled around?
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Mon Sep 14, 2009 9:41 pm |
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By the sounds of it, she is either not pregnant, or if she is, and none of the scenarios that Lindsey laid out for you have occured, then she slept with someone else. Understandable to be freaked out though. Hope everything turns out okay for you.
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ThePitGoddess
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Mon Sep 14, 2009 9:42 pm |
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- Silchias Ruin wrote:
- By the sounds of it, she is either not pregnant, or if she is, and none of the scenarios that Lindsey laid out for you have occured, then she slept with someone else. Understandable to be freaked out though. Hope everything turns out okay for you.
That, or she's a conniving bitch. My boyfriend's ex did that when she KNEW she was pregnant by another dude.
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Kwartin
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Mon Sep 14, 2009 9:44 pm |
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- ThePitGoddess wrote:
- And, is that that Erika girl?
When's the last time you guys fooled around? Yea, that's the one. It was around when Hurricane Bill was coming, I'm not sure when that was now. She just said she hasn't had a period since then. It just came as a shock because I've never expected to be in a situation like this, it's just really pushing my nerves.
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ThePitGoddess
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Mon Sep 14, 2009 9:46 pm |
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- Kwartin wrote:
- ThePitGoddess wrote:
- And, is that that Erika girl?
When's the last time you guys fooled around? Yea, that's the one. It was around when Hurricane Bill was coming, I'm not sure when that was now. She just said she hasn't had a period since then. It just came as a shock because I've never expected to be in a situation like this, it's just really pushing my nerves. She could be lying. And no one EXPECTS that situation. Calm down before you give yourself an anuerism. Just breathe and hope for the best. All you can do now.
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Mon Sep 14, 2009 9:49 pm |
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- ThePitGoddess wrote:
- Silchias Ruin wrote:
- By the sounds of it, she is either not pregnant, or if she is, and none of the scenarios that Lindsey laid out for you have occured, then she slept with someone else. Understandable to be freaked out though. Hope everything turns out okay for you.
That, or she's a conniving bitch.
My boyfriend's ex did that when she KNEW she was pregnant by another dude. It's happened to two of my brothers, so it's more common than you think. Doesn't mean she is a coniving bitch necessarily though, she may be freaked out as well, people do weird things when they are scared. It sucks, but she could just be scared and knows you're a stand up guy.
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ThePitGoddess
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Mon Sep 14, 2009 9:57 pm |
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- Silchias Ruin wrote:
- ThePitGoddess wrote:
- Silchias Ruin wrote:
- By the sounds of it, she is either not pregnant, or if she is, and none of the scenarios that Lindsey laid out for you have occured, then she slept with someone else. Understandable to be freaked out though. Hope everything turns out okay for you.
That, or she's a conniving bitch.
My boyfriend's ex did that when she KNEW she was pregnant by another dude. It's happened to two of my brothers, so it's more common than you think. Doesn't mean she is a coniving bitch necessarily though, she may be freaked out as well, people do weird things when they are scared. It sucks, but she could just be scared and knows you're a stand up guy. Being a woman, and knowing women, I think the evil bitch scenario is most likely
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Kwartin
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Mon Sep 14, 2009 9:57 pm |
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- ThePitGoddess wrote:
- Kwartin wrote:
- ThePitGoddess wrote:
- And, is that that Erika girl?
When's the last time you guys fooled around? Yea, that's the one. It was around when Hurricane Bill was coming, I'm not sure when that was now. She just said she hasn't had a period since then. It just came as a shock because I've never expected to be in a situation like this, it's just really pushing my nerves. She could be lying. And no one EXPECTS that situation. Calm down before you give yourself an anuerism. Just breathe and hope for the best. All you can do now. I've calmed down quite a bit, she's gonna take a test, so that's what I'm waiting for. I don't know when she's getting it, I'm just hoping soon.
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Nautilus
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Mon Sep 14, 2009 11:32 pm |
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If you've never had sex, you're fine. The ONLY way to get pregnant is through direct genital contact. Not even Lindsey's "jizz on your hand" scenario - most of the sperm would die in the open air, and without the ejaculated force to propel them to the egg they'd just kinda... sit there. but yeah, that sucks. However if there's one thing I've ever learned about women - they're exes for a reason. Good luck bro :/
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Bidley
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Tue Sep 15, 2009 12:56 am |
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- Kwartin wrote:
- I took a shot and it calmed me down a little, but it's starting to wear off and I'm starting to freak out again.
Don't for a second think that drinking will help calm you down or make you feel any better. You gotta just ride it out.
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Rosalind
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Tue Sep 15, 2009 8:18 am |
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- Nautilus wrote:
- If you've never had sex, you're fine. The ONLY way to get pregnant is through direct genital contact. Not even Lindsey's "jizz on your hand" scenario - most of the sperm would die in the open air, and without the ejaculated force to propel them to the egg they'd just kinda... sit there.
but yeah, that sucks. However if there's one thing I've ever learned about women - they're exes for a reason. Good luck bro :/ Im trying to think of some sort of situation involving some sort of long instrument, like a really thin gun barrel being used in some horrific scene of home-made artificial insemination. I got nothing. Im gonna go ahead and say it. Nurse says 90% chance? I'd go with 99%. The odds of it somehow happening without doing the actual deed are tiny. As in, people use condoms their entire lives and have something like 1/1000 odds of getting them pregnant through a thin bit of plastic. Exposed to the elements, out in the open, without any force projecting them forward...either you're the most fertile man alive with some kind of supersperm capable of flying through the air or she isn't pregnant. Get the pregnancy test, if nothing else it'll alleviate your state of mind, knowing for sure. If she is pregnant, ask for a paternity test cos im betting its not yours.
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Kwartin
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Tue Sep 15, 2009 10:06 am |
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- Bidley wrote:
- Kwartin wrote:
- I took a shot and it calmed me down a little, but it's starting to wear off and I'm starting to freak out again.
Don't for a second think that drinking will help calm you down or make you feel any better. You gotta just ride it out. I know. I'm not always the smartest decision maker when I'm not in the right mindset. ^^; - Rosalind wrote:
- Im gonna go ahead and say it. Nurse says 90% chance? I'd go with 99%. The odds of it somehow happening without doing the actual deed are tiny. As in, people use condoms their entire lives and have something like 1/1000 odds of getting them pregnant through a thin bit of plastic. Exposed to the elements, out in the open, without any force projecting them forward...either you're the most fertile man alive with some kind of supersperm capable of flying through the air or she isn't pregnant.
Hopefully the latter. I still find 1% too much of a risk right now. Although, that's much better than 10%. - Rosalind wrote:
Get the pregnancy test, if nothing else it'll alleviate your state of mind, knowing for sure. If she is pregnant, ask for a paternity test cos im betting its not yours. Will do.
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AarO)))n
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Tue Sep 15, 2009 10:16 am |
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Also, what ever you do. DO NOT GIVE HER MONEY FOR AN ABORTION!!!!!! I am not making a moral statement. I mean there are some girls (and I hope there is a special place in hell for them ) that say these things to get money. I have unfortunately met a few in my time. If an abortion is what she wants and you have yet to take a paternity test. You offer to meet her or take her to where she "says" she is getting the abortion. If she does not allow you to but still wants the money, I think it may be a bullshit story. You need to cover your ass. Be absolutely sure it is yours before you start paying for it. Other wise good luck man.
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Bidley
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Tue Sep 15, 2009 10:17 am |
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- Kwartin wrote:
- I know. I'm not always the smartest decision maker when I'm not in the right mindset. ^^;
Nobody is dude, you've just got to keep yourself together. I wouldn't like to be in your position, but like Bawden and everyone else said, it's nigh on impossible that if she is pregnant it isn't yours. And if it isn't yours, then the ball is well and truely in your court. So all in all, you don't need to worry.
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Kwartin
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Tue Sep 15, 2009 10:28 am |
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- Bidley wrote:
- Kwartin wrote:
- I know. I'm not always the smartest decision maker when I'm not in the right mindset. ^^;
Nobody is dude, you've just got to keep yourself together. I wouldn't like to be in your position, but like Bawden and everyone else said, it's nigh on impossible that if she is pregnant it isn't yours. And if it isn't yours, then the ball is well and truely in your court. So all in all, you don't need to worry. I'm still a little stressed about the whole situation, but I'm doing much better than I was last night.
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Monkzum
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Tue Sep 15, 2009 10:31 am |
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I can't believe i'm still a virgin.
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AarO)))n
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Monkzum
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Tue Sep 15, 2009 10:36 am |
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Kwartin
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Tue Sep 15, 2009 10:39 am |
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- Monkzum wrote:
- I can't believe i'm still a virgin.
Being a virgin isn't a bad thing.
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Monkzum
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Tue Sep 15, 2009 10:41 am |
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- Kwartin wrote:
- Monkzum wrote:
- I can't believe i'm still a virgin.
Being a virgin isn't a bad thing. I have it on good authority that it is in fact bad
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Kwartin
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Subject: Re: So, I'm like freaking out Tue Sep 15, 2009 10:44 am |
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- Monkzum wrote:
- Kwartin wrote:
- Monkzum wrote:
- I can't believe i'm still a virgin.
Being a virgin isn't a bad thing. I have it on good authority that it is in fact bad I'd rather be a virgin. 'Course, my first time was absolutely dreadful.
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